First of all the “swinging” we are talking about here is not the playset one, so kids out of the room! From what it looks like, Thomas Middleditch is pretty open about his notion of open marriage.
In an interview with Playboy, the “Silicon Valley” star disclosed that he and his wife of four years, costume designer Mollie Gates, have been into the “swinging scene.”
“I don’t know how much I can say, as I don’t want my spouse to end up being mad at me,” Middleditch explained “Only after my wedding was I like, ‘Mollie, I’m sorry, but we have to get a bit non-traditional here.’ To her credit, rather than saying … ‘I’m out,’ she was like, ‘Let’s figure this out.’ ” ( it’s okay you are not the only one gasping!)
Well not only did the couple ‘figure it out’ but the 37-year-old actor claimed that it was this ‘swinging’ has saved our marriage.”
“We have distinct speeds, and we disagree over it often, but scurry comparatively reasonable than feeling unheard and alone and that you have to scamper in the shadows,” he said. The actor also pinpointed how their relationship arrangement is now called being ‘part of the lifestyle. And ‘ The term swinging is old.”
Well we don’t doubt the “old” part considering how polygamy has become one pretty acceptable if not sought after, state of the relationship
Middeintch also explained how being “part of the lifestyle” wasn’t something he had yearned to.
“I self-deprecatingly call myself a sleaze, but that’s not what it is,” he said. “I just like it. I’m sexual.”
Getting hitched to Gates, 32, didn’t change that, something that the actor is extremely happy of.
“I’d constantly thought I was a romantic and that when I fall in love, this stuff will eventually fade away and it did for some years — enough to be like, ‘I should get married, and I’ll be different,’ ” Middleditch quipped. “But it’s part of me. If that’s part of your being and it feels important to you, find a way to explore it, because repression sucks.”
To which we couldn’t agree more.
In fact, the couple has rules too, he said and prefers to function as a unit.
Their interpretation is even entrusting itself to some creativity.
“It’s an endless state of surveillance and communication, to the point where it’s like, ‘All right, we’ve got to stop. Chill,’ ” Middleditch explained. “I’m gas, and she’s brakes. This is actually the assumption for a comedy series we’re writing together.”